it was late when i posted that, I didnt explain it well.
this is a standalone server, its connected to a T1 (surfing is blazing on that baby) i called UUNET and asked them to send all my mail to "mail.halcoservices.com" they updated the MX record. but my web site is actualy hosted in Detroit and i am in VA and the mail server that i am refering to is in DC, so i want my wife friends etc to be able to use outlook to pull mail from that server.
I know they will need to put something in outlook to say use the following server. i would like it to be mail.halcoservices.com for both pop and smtp.
no when i connect to the server i can get mail from the box that i created as test mail in my box. but i am unable to send mail out.
the other problem is that when i send mail to firstname.lastname@example.org
it doesnt show up in my mail box, it just dissappears. (it goes to someones bit bucket)
i hope this is a better explantion of my problem.