http://support.intel.com/support/gra.../CS-010512.htm
That should help with your vga issue.
Laptop moniters usually don't seem to autodetect. You will probably need to look up the horizontal and vertical refresh rates yourself and put them in manually. I don't know Mandrake well but they probably have some gui tool to assist this if the text files scare you. As far as Fedora goes, in my opinion its crappy anyhow. If I couldn't get to the install I'd say screw it and try a different distro. Like the Suse 9.1 ftp install for example. Their YAST has by far the best system configuration tools if you don't know how to deal with all the text files.
You also may want to consider that if you have last years release that your hardware might not have been in it. Mandrake 10 or the latest Fedora might give you better luck on install.
I am actually suprised that people have that trouble with the bc440 ethernet driver in Mandrake 10. I tested that on my Inspiron 1100 with the same built in ethernet and it found it no problem. Most new distros do. In the 2.6 kernels its a built in option.