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Old 12-06-2003, 12:22 AM   #61
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Damn, I wish I was as lucky as you guys

I always seem to start talking to girls about things like C Compilers and Networking, for some reason they just walk off and tell me it's not worth it...
 
Old 12-06-2003, 03:56 AM   #62
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Hu, why/how do you do that? Do you go like "he there pretty mama, do you know gcc 3.3.1 came out today?"
Well, I guess it's better then saying nothing, like I mostly do. Plus may be she will fall for your obvious intelligence.
 
Old 12-06-2003, 06:55 AM   #63
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I do it because it's the only thing I ever talk about to anyone regardless of gender.
I'm not gonna speak to a girl differently, simply because she's a girl...
 
Old 12-06-2003, 03:48 PM   #64
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I do it because it's the only thing I ever talk about to anyone regardless of gender.
I'm not gonna speak to a girl differently, simply because she's a girl...
Surely computers can't dominate your life that much! Try this, "Hi, what's that book you're reading [/what are you working on?/etc.]? ... Sounds interesting. (Ask questions about it.) My name's [Chu] by the way. What was your name again? ...That's a beautiful name. (Now you should have started up a non-computer related conversation with a girl.)" The more you practice and the faster you think on your feet, the better you will get at talking to women.

You can talk about interests you have that are not technical or academic too.
 
Old 12-07-2003, 10:00 PM   #65
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I don't understand... you guys act like women are just objects... they are not!
Come on you dont need a manual.. just be yourself... but never .. never think of women as you are talking about them in this forum!
The advice of "being yourself" is the biggest load of sh*t I have ever heard. So if you're naturally inclined to be a rapist/murderor, you're supposed to "be yourself"?

It should be better rephrased as:
Change yourself into someone better, just don't pretend to be someone you aren't.
 
Old 12-07-2003, 10:52 PM   #66
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i agree with you, vincebs. never pretend to be someone you aren't. however, i disagree with you on one thing - nobody is NATURALLY INCLINED to be a rapist or a murderer. most people like these are drawn to believe that that is their mission on this world,but not that they are naturally inclined to it.

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Old 12-08-2003, 07:57 AM   #67
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Hey Chu...
I think you have the right idea, about not talking to a girl differently just cause she's a girl (at least, I hate it when guys do that) and that way you'll know right away if she's into the same things as you. But honestly, until you find someone like that, in the meantime, you might want to think about taking Cruxus' advice just to, well, expand the field of possibilities.
btw, somebody asked if girls really need a guy to be full of confidence...well basically it comes down to how much confidence we have ourselves. I'm naturally drawn to confident guys, I dont want someone to be intimidated of me as a person as I can be very independant and stubborn, so if a relationship is going to work the guy has to be able to stand up to me (plus I love a challenge). On the other hand, if a guy is fairly confident but gets shy when it comes to expressing his interest, well thats fine, actually its pretty flattering!
one more thing...to me its a major compliment if a guy feels comfortable enough around me to really "be himself" but thats just my humble opinion!
back to studying!
 
Old 12-08-2003, 05:12 PM   #68
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You can talk about C and computers with girls if you want.
You can talk about anything, but you cant just walk up and say,
Hi, Im [chu], hear about that new algorithm for C compression? This might get you a weird look at best, perhaps an unexpected comment even! Better yet, build the conversation slowly, and when they ask what kind of stuff you like, ease into computer talk and you might find that she is interested in what you have to say. Just dont say too much at one time.
 
Old 12-08-2003, 09:49 PM   #69
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You can talk about C and computers with girls if you want.
You can talk about anything, but you cant just walk up and say,
Hi, Im [chu], hear about that new algorithm for C compression? This might get you a weird look at best, perhaps an unexpected comment even! Better yet, build the conversation slowly, and when they ask what kind of stuff you like, ease into computer talk and you might find that she is interested in what you have to say. Just dont say too much at one time.
Unless you met this girl in a computer science classroom, I doubt any conversation about compression algorithms, compiler optimization, or the latest GNU utility will provoke much interest, or even comprehension. Imagine if you didn't know much about Norse folkfore and didn't cared very much about it either and someone walked up to you and said, "Hi [.conversational filler] So do you think the Uppsalan legend about Thor was well known in the 10th century?" You'd tune out and quickly try to find an escape from the conversation, especially if this person wasn't a close friend or family member.

Maybe you care dearly that your potential new girlfriend is as into computers as you are. In that case, the numbers are stacked against you, and you should try frequenting LInux user groups and such. I personally don't care much if a potential new girlfriend likes computers because I'd be bored talking about and working with computers all the time anyway.
 
Old 12-09-2003, 01:29 PM   #70
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The advice of "being yourself" is the biggest load of sh*t I have ever heard. So if you're naturally inclined to be a rapist/murderor, you're supposed to "be yourself"? It should be better rephrased as: Change yourself into someone better, just don't pretend to be someone you aren't.
All right I'm sorry..... you are right...it should be rephrased a little
But if you are not a rapist or murderer then be yourself.
 
Old 12-09-2003, 05:01 PM   #71
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If your not being yourself... (no matter WHAT your doing)... then who are you being?

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Old 12-09-2003, 05:11 PM   #72
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I guess talking to an girl (at least in a "hey nice girl, wonder if she would go out with me" kind of scene) looks a bit like applying for an job at an interview. In a sense, that exactly what you are doing, applying for the job to be her boy friend. And in an job interview, you bring out the best in your self, you know by exaggerating a little about your self. But I think we agree that lying about your self is not a good thing. Cos you will be expected to do stuff you can't.
 
Old 12-09-2003, 11:01 PM   #73
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I guess talking to an girl (at least in a "hey nice girl, wonder if she would go out with me" kind of scene) looks a bit like applying for an job at an interview. In a sense, that exactly what you are doing, applying for the job to be her boy friend. And in an job interview, you bring out the best in your self, you know by exaggerating a little about your self. But I think we agree that lying about your self is not a good thing. Cos you will be expected to do stuff you can't.
Just talk to one already. It won't all seem so mysterious once you've had some experience conversing with women. It's not like they live on another planet where your chances of talking to them are slim. After you talk to them more, you'll get over the intimidation factor and whatever else is keeping you away from half the world. And I should know: It's worked for me.
 
Old 12-10-2003, 05:54 AM   #74
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